During the recent surrogacy consultation, it became clear that there are many women out there who are suffering silently after having an unhappy, damaging or traumatic experience of ‘donating’ their eggs or being a ‘surrogate’ mother for the benefit of others.
We already provide a feature for women to tell their experiences of the sex trade anonymously and many women have taken advantage of it. Together their stories build a powerful picture of the systemic harms of the sex trade.
We are now providing a similar feature for women who have experienced surrogacy and egg ‘donation.’ This gives you a chance to help put the record straight, to counteract the myths and explain the truth, to say #MeToo, and #TimesUp for the commercialisation and commodification of women’s reproductive capacities.
We would also welcome stories from those who may not have been directly and personally involved but have been close to those who have – for example, midwives, doctors and other healthcare workers who have treated women going through these experiences and procedures or relatives of those who have gone through them, or those who know children who have been born through surrogacy and/or egg ‘donation.’
You can use the form below to share your experiences, or if you prefer, you can email your story directly to firstname.lastname@example.org (or message us on social media). You can write as much or as little as you like. You can use your own name or a pseudonym or be completely anonymous.
We may quote your story on this website or in future articles, submissions or publications. We will do this anonymously unless you enter a name, and then we will use only the first name given. We respect how difficult it can be to disclose, so do not enter a name in the form if you want to be anonymous.
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In order to protect anonymity, the form on this page deliberately collects no contact information. This means that we are not able to write to thank you personally for your contribution.
But please know that we are deeply grateful to every single one of you who shares your story. Each story is important, moving and powerful, and represents an act of individual courage and resistance. Together they represent part of the collective struggle that is required to bring about change.